The word from my heart pocket is Confusion.
Confusion is upsetting. When we are under pressure or if it happens when we are wanting to look our best, it seems to grow. We get more and more confused and that causes any number of reactions: anger, shyness, embarrassment. The reason for these reactions is not because we are actually failing or less or stupid - but because we have put pressure on ourselves to be perfect.
The state of confusion is a state of mind. We might have too much information floating around and a need to put things in order. Circumstances might be happening too quickly for us. We may not have all the information we need. This is often the case.
A good solution when we get confused is, literally, to stop. Right in the middle of the chaos, stop what we are doing, saying, feeling. The next step is to think about what would help sort out the confusing factors: Make a list? Ask for help? Gather more facts and information? Think about what is causing the feelings and talking to someone about them?
Confusion is only trying to help. It lets us know that something's missing. If we are being pressured, remove the pressure by saying "I'll get back with you when I get more information" or "I need a little time" or "Can you explain exactly what you need?"
Things that cause confusion are: Clutter, chaos, over-stimulation, not enough information, messiness, over-medication, the need to be perfect, disorganization, trauma, surprise, depression. All of these factors can be dealt with, safely and with care. Look at the list. Each one has a solution. Some require more effort than others, but there is a way to immediately remove the confusion for each one.
The most common culprit is the need to be perfect. It is supported by our society and has been a major factor in stifling creativity. In fact, confusion and chaos are common when creativity is high. There is always "mess" when something is being created. If allowed to play out, the creation happens and we can then clean up the unwanted residuals and get ready for the next creative moment.
Hail to those confusing moments! Bravo for the opportunity to see all of my possibilities! Thank you, Confusion, for your clues and wonderful chaos that leads me to organization, healing and a better me.
The state of confusion is a state of mind. We might have too much information floating around and a need to put things in order. Circumstances might be happening too quickly for us. We may not have all the information we need. This is often the case.
A good solution when we get confused is, literally, to stop. Right in the middle of the chaos, stop what we are doing, saying, feeling. The next step is to think about what would help sort out the confusing factors: Make a list? Ask for help? Gather more facts and information? Think about what is causing the feelings and talking to someone about them?
Confusion is only trying to help. It lets us know that something's missing. If we are being pressured, remove the pressure by saying "I'll get back with you when I get more information" or "I need a little time" or "Can you explain exactly what you need?"
Things that cause confusion are: Clutter, chaos, over-stimulation, not enough information, messiness, over-medication, the need to be perfect, disorganization, trauma, surprise, depression. All of these factors can be dealt with, safely and with care. Look at the list. Each one has a solution. Some require more effort than others, but there is a way to immediately remove the confusion for each one.
The most common culprit is the need to be perfect. It is supported by our society and has been a major factor in stifling creativity. In fact, confusion and chaos are common when creativity is high. There is always "mess" when something is being created. If allowed to play out, the creation happens and we can then clean up the unwanted residuals and get ready for the next creative moment.
Hail to those confusing moments! Bravo for the opportunity to see all of my possibilities! Thank you, Confusion, for your clues and wonderful chaos that leads me to organization, healing and a better me.
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